How to Make Reading Irresisitable to Boys

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I want my son to love books, so I began reading to him when he was tiny. Despair descended when, at 6 months old, he was more interested in eating books than reading them. But I wiped off the drool and kept reading.

My son loves books now. But my concern for boys’ language development persists. The National Center for Educational Statistics reports boys start school slightly behind girls, and don’t close the gap—it widens. Boys’ reading and writing skills lag behind girls’ into college.


Building Boys’ Literacy

While some differences are biologically built-in, the way parents talk to boys matters, too, according to Diane McGuinness, PhD, author of “Growing a Reader from Birth: Your Child’s Path from Language to Literacy.” Parents tend to use different styles of speaking with sons than daughters.

Studies show parents have longer, more elaborative conversations with girls. They ask more questions and engage girls in more verbal interaction. With boys, parents tend to use a repetitive style, asking simple questions again and again until the right answer is given, then changing topics entirely. McGuinness notes this conversation style isn’t as effective for language development.

Reading aloud can build language skills. But if you’ve got a young boy, you’ve likely found many boy-books contain nothing but pictures of vehicles and their names. These “types of tractors” books encourage the repetitive style of conversation: “Can you point to the roller?” “Good. Now can you say backhoe?”

Though they can be a starting point for rich, elaborative conversation with your child, there’s no story unless you make one up. And finding the energy and inspiration for storytelling after chasing a preschooler all day is almost as hard as browsing for books with him in tow.


Rev Up Your Reading

To foster your child’s love of language, make reading a habit. Share stories at naptime and before bed, and talk about books you are reading. Here are five other ways to engage your little linguist.

1. Pretend you’re an actress giving a performance and really play out the language or sounds, says Diane Schoenburg, PhD, a developmental psychologist and mom of two boys. Kids love the cadence and rhythm of storytelling.

2. Keep toys nearby that match characters in the stories you’ll read. “Boys tend to be oriented toward the world of objects,” notes McGuinness. Let your son hold an object like one in the book to occupy fidgeting hands and help him connect written words, pictures and objects.

3. Let kids see you read. Toddlers love to imitate grown-ups, advises Rich. Give your child a picture book and let him read next to you.

4. If your son asks you to repeat the story again and again, take advantage of it. Though the characters are familiar, kids continue to be surprised by what happens next, says McGuinness, even if you aren’t. Repetition is stimulating because young kids can’t remember stories well.

5. Take reading on the road. Make books available for reading in the car seat or grocery cart. Let your son tell his own story from the pictures.

If reading isn’t your son’s favorite activity, don’t force the issue. Story time should be fun for your child. Just try again tomorrow. Someday soon, he’ll be reading to you.


Suggested Books to Read-aloud to Boys, Ages 2–5

Rhythmic, rhyming stories make for preschool favorites. “The language has to flow, but it can’t be too wordy,” advises Jenny Rich, reading specialist and editor of the website Ethan’s Bookshelf. Plot and illustrations are also important. “We want kids to recognize there is meaning to be derived from books,” adds Rich. The best stories transport listeners from beginning to end, offering fun surprises along the way.

If you’re not excited by the thought of naming construction equipment again tonight, take heart. These clever read-aloud books are parent-recommended and little boy approved. Find them at your bookstore or library today.

Rattletrap Car
by, Phyllis Root
In this tumultuous story of a family trip to the lake, the rattletrap car falls apart, piece-by-piece. The characters ingeniously mend the car with toys and tasty treats. Bonus: great sound effects for parental performance.

Shiver Me Letters: A Pirate’s ABC
by, June Sobel
“R” says the Captain to his crew: Find me more letters! Young readers delight in pointing out letters in curious places and shouting “R” with the mates on this pirate ship. Blow me down—this ABC can’t be beat.

Duck on a Bike
by, David Shannon
Follow duck on his first bike ride past each animal on the farm. Though they scoff at first, the curious animals can’t pass up the chance to ride bikes, too. This is a beautiful, noisy barnyard on wheels.

If I Built a Car
by, Chris Van Dusen
Jack builds a space-age car, chock-full of special features like a pool and snack bar. This book has a wonderful cadence and dynamite pictures. Though it’s wordier than the others, you’ll find it easy to shorten the text for young readers.

My Truck is Stuck!
by, Kevin Lewis
A dump truck of dog bones gets stuck in a pothole in this whimsically illustrated counting book. Doggy drivers hitch up their vehicles to the dump truck in an effort to get it unstuck. This is a revving, rhyming adventure.

What Do People Do All Day?
by, Richard Scarry
Animal characters of all kinds show in detail how people in every profession work together in everyday life. With sweet illustrations that don’t dumb things down, your child will grow fond of these animals in no time.

The Story of the Little Mole Who Went in Search of Whodunit
by, Werner Holzwarth
Kids giggle as mole comes out of his hole one morning and PLOP! He gets pooped on. Who knew bathroom humor could be educational? With entertaining but not-too-graphic illustrations, it’s hilarious reading for all ages.

I Stink
by, Kate and Jim McMullan
A night in the life of a garbage truck is just yucky enough to enthrall little boys. His trashy ABC feast includes dirty diapers, eggshells and fish heads, to name a few. It’s engrossing, really.

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Heidi Smith Luedtke, PhD, is a psychologist and mom who would rather read the same children’s book repeatedly than suffer through an episode of her son’s favorite cartoon.

published: July 13, 2012

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